Being nice does not always pay off! -  written & posted by tim i gurung June 2009

We always keep reminding ourselves that we have to treat others well if we want to be treated well by others and most of the cases it seems appropriate and also true. However, unfortunately that is not always the reality in our society or at least for my case. Most of my relatives do not fancy me of their own as I was not able to always fulfill their demands. I was even verbally abused while trying to help a granny in needs and from that day on, I would not even dare to talk with any of my neighbors in our housing estate. Holding the door on the main gate or on the lift for the arriving users is absolutely a big NO. The first priority has to be always you, nothing else!

Most of my friends are business associated and we all know that it will also end when our business will end in the future. Especially an outsider like me, who lives in a foreign country, it is very hard to find some good old friends. It is simply not possible to find someone like that and just say, I know him since our childhood and we grew up together! It is simply not possible!

It is even much harder in business. The envious & suspicious thought of the other party making more money than you is always present on the back of the mind. Therefore, no matter how you try to be nice and be reasonable to your associates, the mistrust & suspicion will always be there. And it is main reason why most of the business associations fail very easily.

When you are in a society where money tops people’s priority list, everything else will have lesser value. That includes being nice to others in your society. It might make you feel better but unfortunately being nice does not always pay off for sure. If you are still not convinced, why don’t you just have a try? But do not get disappointed as you are already warned here!